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Your youngest son can exclude his father in the evenings only when he wants you to stay, or vice versa, when your daughter asks his father to read a bedtime story before bedtime. In general, parents experience this phenomenon very often. Children sometimes attach to their mothers and sometimes to their fathers. Psychologists consider this behavior very normal, and even find it important. The common belief that girls become patriarchs and boys become mothers are very common.
Emotional movement of children between mother and father is related to their sexual development. Boys and girls investigate the differences between being born as a boy or a girl, from birth to adolescence. When they started answering this question, they were no longer infant. Parents are the most likely to help children look for their sexuality. For boys, the father appears to be an example of his masculine development. Girls try their femininity.
Babies discover their bodies in their first year. They discover his foot, nose, abdomen and genital area. In this way, they draw a body diagram about their own body. Thus, the basis of a sense of “I atıl is laid. At the end of the second age, they understand whether it is a boy or a girl, and which parents are of their own gender. But they don't know what that means to them. To solve this, they approach the father and the man, the mother and the woman closely. Children live in their own magic world until the age of seven. Girls can imagine that the woman next to the father can simply take his place alone, and boys can only imagine living with the mother in a place where the father is not. Psychologists call this period “Oedipal Period..
When the mother and father treat each other like a wife or show affection, children immediately intervene with great anger, sometimes even crying. Children aged five and six think to be as perfect as their parents in order to replace them. As a result, they attach themselves to their own gender, their parents, sometimes imitating and certifying it. These periods are generally fluctuating, some are more obvious and some are less obvious. When the child reaches the age of seven, he now includes himself in the same sex. However, this does not prevent them from attaching to the mother or father from time to time. In order to complete this development in a healthy way, experts recommend:
- The child can devote the mother or father in his eyes with an instant passion. Parents should ignore this situation and remain calm.
- The child must be made to feel that parents are wives. For example, even if they intervene frequently, parents should continue their speech until the end.
- The mother or father should not be taken due to the child's attitude. In such cases, trying to spend more time with the child can solve the problem.
Research shows that the relationship between mother-boy and father-daughter is the most decisive factor in the child's relationship with the opposite sex in adulthood. Girls or boys who depend on their parents in their childhood are looking for their parents in the people they have emotional relationships with. The point that the parents should pay attention to is to make the child feel that they are emotionally “receptive mesaj and to give the message that they are always ready to listen and find solutions to their problems. According to experts, the child should find both parents equally close. The mother or father must provide the child with equal emotional satisfaction. Only then can the child find the ground to express his or her feelings and thoughts. A conscious parent who understands the importance of listening to the child's feelings and thoughts can reveal anxiety and contradictions in the child's head. It also helps the child to accept these concerns and thoughts as they are. Experts point out that parents need to be consistent when communicating with the child. Children are incapable of solving their parents' changing moods. Parents who respond to a child's question with interest should refrain from answering another question 'shut up'. Research shows that children raised in this kind of age are confronted with prejudiced and prejudiced images. In adulthood, the boy is constantly looking for his mother in the opposite sex or equating his father-in-law to his father-in-law. The best way is to talk to your parents and tell them that they are human beings. This will help to perceive the parents as an 'whole' in the child's mind. Thus, it will be prevented that the parents define their personality with fantasy elements in their minds. Parents need to give the child the opportunity to get to know themselves.